6 The Lovers

Number 6

4^th Chakra, love of the heart – 2nd Chakra, sexual desire

Here we take a major leap into dualism - the inclusion of another into our lives. Whether a fleeting romance or serious lifelong relationship, whether real or dreamt of, romantic love plays into our lives and minds and takes up a major part of its energy. But that this card deals primarily with the possible lifetime pairing of two people is evidenced by the angel hovering overhead, coaxing the two into proximity so that they may begin the dance of love. That they are being drawn together by an angel suggests that from the perspective of a higher level they are suitable for one another in the sense of being compatible enough to enhance each other's lives in the long term, including the raising of children. But how are young lovers to know? Confirmations from friends, family, the world itself, might be able to provide enough assurance; when everything and everyone says it's right, it's probably right. Sometimes there's a choice to be made between two. In our society of love relationships, as opposed to arranged marriages, it's up to us alone to decide. If we're good at reading signs, if we have a sharp intuition, if we bring as much wisdom to bear as we can muster, we'll make the right choice. Advice columns in the newspapers will be as good as anything that can be said right here, probably better.

Even in the best of relationships there will be concessions and compromises to make as well as commitments on many levels, whether implied or stated; differences of opinions will arise as well as unforeseen circumstances. The mature couple understands these things from the beginning, that difficulties will arise; if not, greater difficulties will arise.

The question that's not often asked is 'Do I want to have a spouse at all?' In our context of a spiritual quest, which is what the Tarot deals with, it's a very key point. There are some mystic traditions in which the idea of a partner is shunned altogether, seen as a severe dilution of energies – but if we try to be a celibate monk when we're not truly ripe for it, serious problems can come about. So in the Hindu tradition there is room for both, the spiritual level one is on is taken into account; and concessions are made for the 'householder,' the path of raising a family while simultaneously tending to spiritual development. Both are valid platforms in which to grow; here again the choices are none other than your own. The path you choose will prompt the actions you take. In your deepest of hearts you know what you need, and when. And – if you don't allow physical appearances to dictate too much – you may also know who you need.

By Ananda G. Brady copyright 2011